Dennis Rodman Syndrome (DRS)

Anybody remember Dennis Rodman? The basketball player who pulled down 15-20 rebounds a game, maybe coming away with 4-6 points. He was Mr. Rebound while in the league.

I've known a few Dennis Rodmans in my day and no, I'm not talking about it in a basketball sense. I'm talking about it in a relationship sense. Know any people like that? They just bounce around like a pinball from one person to the next. Every guy or gal they date is a rebound. There will come a point where a guy or gal they date is a rebound off of a rebound off of a rebound off of a rebound. That's a lot of rebounds right there.

I admit, I've thought about rebounding before, but haven't been able to follow through with it. I tried going out and admitting to myself that I was over an ex, but then when I was out and about, I realized I wasn't over her. So, I'd be honest about that and it'd be a one date stint.

So, what's it take to rebound? Is there such a thing as a successful rebound? Or, are most rebounds followed up by a travel, a personal foul, or another missed shot? After a rebound, do most people try to force up a quick shot instead of using all 24 seconds in the shot clock? How many rebounds would it take before they are finally able to convert successfully on the shot?

It just seems like it's one guy or gal after another with these people. There might be a day or two in between relationships, but that's it. If they're single for a week or more, then they start pondering about crawling back to their ex.

What's so bad about being single? Why is there the constant need for a love interest with some people? Don't we need time to recuperate when getting out of a long-term relationship? I hear from many that it takes usually half the time that two people dated in order to get over them. So, if a couple dated for two years, it'd take about a full year to completely get over them. For the most part, that's held pretty true for me. I dated a gal for close to two years (22 months) and it took me about 9 months to get over her. In those 9 months, did I try to date? Yes, I did, but those were all very short-lasted, because I realized I was not over her and I felt it wasn't fair of me to get involved with someone when I knew darn well I wasn't fully over my ex.

I do know of a few rebound relationships that actually worked, well, technically speaking. The couples got married, but happily? I couldn't say that.

So, what's the moral of the story? When one gets out of a long-term relationship, get off the court and be a benchwarmer or a coach for a while. They shouldn't get back out there until they know they're ready to play and successfully convert on their shots, as opposed to missing left and right and coming down with Rodman like statistics.