JUST Groping, Eh?

Ever talk to a friend and they let some new information be known to you and make it sound like it's no big deal? They did it in such a manner that it just becomes another point in their story and they continue on with that story like it was nothing big? Then you have to think back a couple seconds just to make sure you heard the story correctly? I ran into this situation a couple days ago.

An old friend of mine and I were talking and for one reason or another, I brought this guy's name up, an old male friend of her's I never liked. I hadn't even met the guy, but from what I heard, he still rubbed me the wrong way. He'd go months without talking to my friend and then would up and e-mail her, saying the reason why he didn't talk to her was the fact that he liked her. Yeah, weird. He was loaded with money and that was the only reason she ever wanted to hang out with him. There were times she pondered about moving in with the guy. Yet, she'd come crying to me over the phone about how he lied to her or stood her up or ditched her. This wasn't a one time thing either. I had to listen to stories like that once a month it seemed like (sometimes more). I kept telling her not to associate herself with that guy anymore. He wasn't a friend. I didn't care if he had a lot of money. The ending result is always her in tears. She wants to believe that a good sum of money can heal all wounds, but that's not true. I don't care how rich the guy was, as long as he kept hurting her, she'd be crying herself to sleep at night and what would that large sum of money do then? Nothing.

After I brought his name up, she went into a story about him. "He's moving to California now. The last time I saw him, he groped me. He was completely wasted and I didn't want him driving, so I let him stay over here and he groped me. It was kind of weird. But, that's just life I guess. So, yeah, I haven't seen him since that night. He wrote just recently and said he wanted to hang out when he was back in town, but I don't know about that."

That's JUST life, eh? No big deal? I am now beginning to remember why I hadn't talked to her for 7-8 months. She has no respect for herself. I can tell through the tone of her voice when she's bothered, upset, or embarrassed. That tone was just a tone of, "It's everyday life and this is my story. Big deal." I don't care if the guy was drunk or not, that's no excuse to "grope" somebody. That girl should've slapped him silly, called him a cab, and pushed him right out the door.