Controversial Marriage

Well, since my last post regarded "that guy" who was a complete homophobe and the Oscar-contending film "Brokeback Mountain" just came out (no pun intended) nationwide yesterday, I thought I'd blog about the topic of gay marriage.

First, let it be known for the record that I am not gay, so this isn't some biased view coming from a person who wants to have these legal rights for himself.

President Bush, among others, have claimed that allowing homosexuals to marry would ruin the "sanctity" of marriage. Aren't heterosexuals doing a good/poor enough job with that as it is? One half of first marriages end in divorce. In my generation, that number is even worse, as almost two-thirds of first marriages end in divorce. Shouldn't the concept of marriage be based on love? Whether that be a man and a woman, a woman and a woman, or a man and a man, shouldn't it all come down to their love for one another? If two people are in love with each other, shouldn't they have the right to a legal ceremony we like to call marriage?

Some will come with the argument, "Well, they can't reproduce and make babies together." Yeah, but there is such a thing as adoption. There are many heterosexual couples who can't make babies together. Does this mean they shouldn't have the legal right to be married? There are so many children put up for adoption and they need loving parents. Whether those parents are homosexual, heterosexual, can or can't make children together, is irrelevant. They may be just the parents that the child or children need.

Continuing on from that thought, others will contend that "If a gay couple adopts kids, those kids will probably be gay too." Let's use that logic the other way, shall we? Do you know an openly gay person? Were his or her parents homosexual or heterosexual? I'm guessing heterosexual. So, just because the parents are openly gay, does not give any justification that the child will become gay. Recent studies have shown that this is false as well. So, good try, but not quite.

Finally, let's look at the positives from gay marriage. Just imagine that you had to bottle up this big secret of yours inside for twenty or thirty years because it was not in line with the social majority. Then, when you finally came out with the big secret, the social majority still didn't accept it or you and even though you may have felt free for the first time in your life, you feel a sense of helplessness and misery as well. Gays are more susceptible to living a promiscuous lifestyle, where they can get caught up in heavy drinking, drug usage, and a lot of sexual activity. I believe that a reason for this is the fact that they don't have the same legal privileges that heterosexuals do. If they had the right to legally marry, I think you'd see a lot more homosexuals look more for monogamous committed relationships, as opposed to being promiscuous. That would lessen the spread of STD's, lessen depression and suicides in the gay community, and because of that, ultimately make their community more gay (happy), in the truest sense of the word.