Monday, October 25, 2010

Honesty vs. Game-Playing

It's been a while since I've seriously dated, so it feels like I'm having to learn all over again. I'm having to learn the game-playing manual, when to be straight-forward and when to hold back a bit, when to be completely honest and when to give a half-truth. I have to say, I'm not liking these new rules or rewritings of rules.

The saying goes, "Don't hate the player, hate the game." My question is, if the players hate the game, why play the game in the first place? Then there'd be no players or game.

I've heard or read people say things such as, "When he/she asks you out, either say you'll have to get back to them after you've had time to check your schedule or say you're busy that night, but ask for a rain check, so as to not let them think you have a lot of free time, that you don't have much going on in your life, that sort of thing." Why? I don't understand this. If one is excited about the prospect of going on a date with a person, why is it necessary to place them on hold, wondering to themselves if you're actually interested? Perhaps I'm too honest, but if someone I'm interested in asks me out, I'd be hard-pressed to put them on hold as opposed to saying, "Yeah, sure, that sounds great." I mean, what if I said I'd get back to them and they had already bumped into someone else whom caught their interest while I was playing games? I'd then be questioning my decision for quite some time.

I've also read or heard the rule that you're not to call your date until 1-2 days after the date. Again, why? If the date went really well, you were excited about the prospect of a second date and can't get this person out of your head, why can't you call before and show this joy and excitement? What's wrong about feeling a connection with a person, having a great time with them and wanting to see them again in the near future?

I just don't understand game-playing, two people, whom have a mutual interest in one another, to try and be one move ahead of the other to prevent themselves from getting hurt. That's all I see it as, a means to prevent oneself from being hurt. Nobody likes being hurt, but I just wonder if game-playing limits two people's potential, if they're so busy obsessing about their possibly being hurt in the future, that it becomes more difficult to discover their true potential as a couple.

It'll be difficult for me to ever take part in this "game-playing" that seems so common anymore and who knows, that may make me more prone to getting hurt than one whom commonly plays games, but I'd like to believe the final reward will far greater for someone like myself whom doesn't take part in those very games.

Mysterious Health Condition

- I started feeling the symptoms on Sunday, May 31st of 2009. It started with me just feeling more fatigued than usual after sleeping 12 consecutive hours, from midnight to noon. Over the next three days, I began to feel dizzy and perhaps overly drugged in my head. A tingling sensation also made its presence known in my hands and feet, eventually spreading to my arms and legs and increasing in intensity as the days progressed. At times, my cheeks and the inside of my mouth would feel numb. All of these symptoms, especially the tingles, the fatigue and the drugged sensation, were rather constant for the first 2-3 months. This made it extremely difficult for me to focus on much for a certain period of time. It was even difficult to walk a great amount. No matter how much sleep I’d get the night before or in an afternoon nap, I’d still feel like I hadn’t slept at all. Due to all these symptoms, not finding any answers from the doctors and not seeming to be improving in health, I became rather depressed after 2+ months with the condition.

After approximately three months, the intensity of the symptoms became less constant. I no longer felt the numbness in my cheeks, lips or the inside of my mouth. The extreme drugged up feeling in my head would be felt only every other day, as opposed to every day. This held true for the tingles and the fatigue as well. Over the next several months, this trend seemed to continue, with the occasional relapse. After a couple more months, the symptoms were only intense every 3 days. Over the past couple months, the rough days have seemed to occur in spurts. Three weeks ago, from Monday through Thursday, I was a mess, but the following week, the symptoms were somewhat tolerable. This past week, just about every day has been right in the middle of those two extremes I just mentioned. It’s still difficult for me to get a whole lot done when the symptoms are intense, but being more spread out has helped in that regard. It’s rather unpredictable, though, so it’s difficult for me to plan very far ahead, as I don’t know on Wednesday night how I’m going to feel on Thursday morning, let alone how I’ll feel two weeks from then.

- My doctors have tried to place me on neurontin and klonopin. Neurontin had no effect on me, positive or negative, so I was weened off of that. I was a mess on klonopin, basically feeling like a zombie all day and feeling more drugged than I had in quite some time, so I only lasted about three days on that before being taken off the medication.

- I have undergone the following tests: MRI’s (of my head and also of my neck/back), two EMG’s, a Q-Sart, skin biopsy and a glucose-tolerance test, to go along with a multitude of blood tests. AVM was discovered via the neck/back MRI, but some specialists in the area concluded that it wasn’t the reason for my symptoms and without it being active, there was no need to operate. The glucose-tolerance test went fine, as did the blood tests, from what I remember. I believe the EMG’s, Q-Sart and skin biopsy showed some abnormalities for my age, but not so abnormal that they could specifically diagnose me with anything. Guillain-Barre Syndrome seemed to be a possibility in my doctor’s minds, but they labeled it as small fiber sensory neuropathy.

- I have attempted to discover causes and/or trends with this condition, but that’s been a difficult task. It began 3-4 days after a week long venture in Omaha, where I took part in my senior class’ 10-year reunion. This is why I figured I was just overly tired at first, but that obviously wasn’t the case. I also felt the symptoms increase in intensity after another trip and flight, just the day after I landed back in Columbus to come home. However, as I’ve traveled since that point and haven’t felt such ill effects upon returning from those trips, I have a hard time believing the travel has/had anything to do with the onset of the condition or an increase in intensity of the symptoms. As I had been out-of-town with friends and family the week I was in Omaha, quite a bit of drinking (alcohol) had been done. So, I had wondered if a link could be drawn from that, so I then stopped drinking for the following 3 months and didn’t feel any different. Once the symptoms began to gradually decrease in intensity and become more scattered, I started to drink again. Stress and/or depression have been brought to my attention as possible links, but while I will not deny that I became quite depressed 2+ months following the condition’s onset, I wasn’t depressed before it started, so I have a hard time seeing it as a cause. I’ve also noticed, more times than not, that if I sleep extremely hard on a given night and have vivid dreams, I wake up feeling awful, where the symptoms will be at their peak intensity wise, before gradually decreasing in that intensity as the day progresses. Of course, this has not happened on every such occasion, but when the symptoms are intense, it does feel as if my mind/body have yet to fully awaken, so I’ve been curious if this may have anything to do with either the drugged sensation in my head or the fatigue. Other people have brought up to me the fact that I’ve undergone brain surgery, have epilepsy and TMJ and have wondered if any/all of those have contributed to my symptoms. I have a difficult time believing this, as the surgery was performed just over 7 years ago and I haven’t had any problems with full-blown seizures or with the TMJ in recent years either. One trend I may have noticed not pertaining to the potential cause deals with tremors in my hands and knees. Slight tremors were noticed by my neuromuscular specialist a few months ago, but I feel as if they may have worsened since then and tend to increase in frequency and intensity with the symptoms of my condition.

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It's Been A While...

I'm not referring to the song by alternative rock band Stain'd. It's been close to two years since I posted a blog. In that time, I moved from Omaha, Nebraska, where I had lived for 26 years, to central Ohio, this country elected its first African-American president in its history, LeBron James announced to the world via ESPN that he would be leaving the city of Cleveland to join Dwayne Wade and Chris Bosh in Miami, Glenn Beck said some crazy things and I learned how to play Bejeweled Blitz on Facebook.

I'm not exactly sure what happened to have completely halted my posts for almost two years, but I hope to start again, starting now...